“Change is a thing you can count on” Miley Cyrus sings in “Younger Now”. And it is true indeed. Change is inevitable. Everything is changing, slowly or fast, even while I’m writing right now and you’re reading.
Life seems to go so fast sometimes – and even if you look at a month from now and you start noticing all the little details (your haircut, your style, a trend you were following and now aren’t anymore…) you’ll see how much you and your life changed.
However, it is also true that change is inevitable but progress is optional. It is up to us to decide what to direct that change toward.
In short, if you want to live life on a higher level you have to step up and demand more from yourself.
So, the big question:
“How do you change your life and live it on your own terms?”
Well, here are 7 things that you can do today to change your life for the better.
1. MAKE A VISUAL/DREAM BOARD
When I was a kid, I remember daydreaming all the time. I would literally lay on my bed and visualize my dream life. I would imagine all these amazing scenarios and create imaginary worlds and universes.
There was probably nothing I would consider “impossible” or “unrealistic”. Every opportunity was open. And I think it was the same for many other kids.
However, I think that when we grow up and become adults, some of that magic gets “lost in the process” and somehow we use our ability to dream less and less.
That’s why I think a dream board – which is basically a visual display of your goals and desires that you can look at every day – is a great way for us to start believing in your own dreams again.
Seeing our dreams every day will inevitably direct our focus toward what we want and our brains will start thinking about the different paths that would lead us there (our brains are problem-solving machines after all!).
It can be an unconscious process at first, but I really suggest you try it to see how life-changing it can be.
2. TRY OUT THE ONE-PAGE STRATEGY
Not too long ago, I wrote a guest post for It’s All You Boo – which by the way is one of my favorite websites ever.
The article is basically all dedicated to explaining in full details a technique (called “The one-page strategy”) that can help you stop over thinking and start working towards your goals in the most productive way possible.
3. PICK OUT YOUR ISSUES
Try giving yourself a speech out loud, maybe in front of a mirror. I’m not kidding. We do it internally all the time anyway!
Choose a particularly sensitive issue to be the main theme of the conversation. For me, it was binge eating.
Notice what you tell yourself, the tone you use and try to write down as much as you can. When I personally did it, I recorded the entire conversation and then transcribed it later on.
Don’t be fake, don’t say stuff just because you think you’re supposed to say that. Say what you really feel. If you’re pissed off and angry, then scream to your face. It’s ok for now.
Cry, scream, it doesn’t matter. Let it all out.
Then compose yourself and repeat out loud (again talking to yourself):
“I understand and see why you feel this way, but let it go now. Let’s work on this, let’s get better”
This way, you’re giving yourself a fresh start. As I said, it was binge eating for me. I would eat when I was bored, angry or anxious – or to simply procrastinate on something. I would eat ‘till I was nauseous. I would feel guilty every. single. time, I would feel bad about myself or like I let myself down.
Having this conversation over and over again eventually helped me not only in “spotting” and identifying my problem (because I would do it without noticing most of the time!) but also in accepting it.
And once I accepted I had a problem, I started working hard to fix it. I recommend you try this exercise every time you feel stressed or overwhelmed.
Give it a shot, I bet you’ll be amazed by how relieved you’ll feel right after!
4. SIGN UP FOR THAT COURSE YOU ALWAYS PROCRASTINATE ON
We all have that one thing (sometimes more than one!) that we’ve always been fascinated to learn more of. Maybe you want to learn how to play an instrument, or a new language – or even how to start your own business.
The truth is that if you always think you’ll “eventually do it”, chances are you’re either gonna forget about it or keep thinking there’s still time to do it but never do it for real.
Learning is definitely a great investment and you should do it every chance you get. And what better way to do it, than using the Internet’s best benefits – learning whenever you are and at any price range?
5. LISTEN TO A PODCAST ABOUT SOMETHING YOU DIDN’T KNOW
This is another one related to learning but hey! There’s always room for learning and growing!
Am I right or am I right?!
So if you can’t afford any online or offline course at any price, just keep in mind that there are still free options – and podcasts are a great choice among them!
Related Post: “7 Most Inspiring Podcasts For Millennials”
6. GET A LIBRARY CARD (OR START USING YOURS BETTER)
A couple days ago I was watching this very interesting video on “The Financial Diet” Youtube channel (something I find myself doing more and more often lately) and I got very surprised by what I found out: library cards are a gold mine!!
Believe it or not (I didn’t believe at first so I did my own research!) it turns out that library cards aren’t just for borrowing books.
I was like:
In fact, they offer a ton of advantages from access to events, ebooks, classes, discounts on music and even Netflix subscriptions (Yes, you read that correctly!)
And if you didn’t know all this stuff just like me, then you might definitely want to contact your library or do some kind of research and find out what you can get with your own library card.
Think about all the things you might have missed out to this point!
7. START INVESTING
I have to admit that investing is not a walk in the park.
It does take some research and thinking but it’s not the gambling and “picking stocks” BS most people think it is either!
It’s actually easier (and more boring if you mind!) than you might think. Of course, I can’t tell you everything here or this post would count a few more pages than intended, but I can definitely give you all the resources you need to start investing right now.
Basically, all you’ll need are the following two books. And booom! You’ll be all set!
No, I’m not kidding: just read these books, do exactly what they say and you’ll be well set to make a fortune (especially if you’re in your 20s and have time by your side!)
Did you know that you could make 1 million dollars passively in the next 40 years?!
Actually, even the first book alone would be enough (it gives you step-by-step instructions on what to do, so don’t worry – even my dog would be able to set an investing account with this book!)
Anyway, cutting it all short, these are the books I was talking about:
- I will teach you to be rich by Ramit Sethi – his website is also a great starting point to get your finances in shape
- Money: Master The Game by Tony Robbins
I also talked about investing here: “6 Habits You Need To Form Before Your Thirties”
Final Thoughts/The Takeaway
How does that old saying go? “Rome wasn’t built in a day”
I think eventually if you want something – anything – to turn out right, you need to put in the effort. As we said, it is true that things are constantly changing, but it is also true that it takes constant effort to keep them going the way we want them to.
With that being said, I really hope you enjoyed the tips in this post and I give you my personal best congratulations and wishes for taking your first step toward a successful journey!