I think not everybody is comfortable with solitude, yet there are so many ways to enjoy spending time alone and so many things that you can only learn through solitude.
I personally try to always find some time for myself – even if it’s just 5 minutes – because I find it to be really helpful for my mental and overall health.
But if you’re one of those people who just can’t stand to be alone, if you’re afraid to try new things all by yourself, then I highly suggest you read this post.
“The time you feel lonely is the time you most need to be yourself” – Douglas Coupland
So here are 6 things you can do in your “me time”!
1. FIND A HOBBY
Long story short: I love cooking. Even if I’m not particularly talented at it. I just like doing it. I make mistakes, I learn and – in most cases – I eat something good all by myself. I don’t like sharing food!
The point here is that if you find yourself a hobby, it will help you feel more related to yourself. I know it sounds weird, but sometimes we relate to other people when we can’t really relate to ourselves. Discovering a hobby can lead to finding your passion, and this can take you a long way.
I still don’t know if I eat because I cook, or I cook so that I can eat. This will remain a mystery to me.
2. GET DEEPER ABOUT YOURSELF
I think nobody – whatever your age is – will ever be able to completely know themselves, but at least you can start somewhere and see where this brings you. You might find your lifetime passion, a new hobby, or just find out something you didn’t know about yourself.
Spending time alone can help you get a better understanding of your feelings, dreams, or fears. It can be incredibly clarifying and inspiring.
Speaking from heart to heart, I can tell you journaling is a great place to start.
3. HAVE A SOLO DATE
There’s nothing I love more than solo dates!
Just think about the magic of solo dates for a moment: you can do whatever you want, you don’t have to debate and argue about which movie to see, where to go to eat, what to order or when to leave. You have complete freedom!!
And if you need suggestions, I have something like 100 ideas (maybe I should write a post soon).
Here are some:
Go to movies;
Go to your favourite coffee shop;
Do some people watching.
P.S. My favourite type of solo date is having a movie marathon and then eat a cake I made myself. I don’t really like sharing food, especially cakes!
4. TAKE SOME TIME TO GROW
The great thing about living in today’s world is that we have unlimited resources to learn. And as we learn, we grow. You can discover new passions or talents you never knew you had, and all you need is a laptop and an internet connection. Sincerely impressive.
Ok, maybe it’s because I like writing, but I’m pretty sure everybody can get some benefits from writing a journal. It gives you a way of monitoring your signs of progress and just shows where your life is going.
Trust me, after you write for as little as 30 minutes, you start feeling like a completely new person because you just cleaned your mind of a big amount of thoughts!
Just give it a try, ok?
6. LEARN SOMETHING NEW
As I said here nowadays it’s so easy to learn something new that you don’t really have excuses!
You can learn basically anything from your bed, standing under the blankets and eating some snacks.
And think how much learning something new can change your life!
You could get that promotion you’ve been craving for, or get a better job, or learn a new language and speak to locals when you travel.
My favourite learning resources of all time:
In life, you constantly need to stop and reevaluate some things. Silence – and most of all solitude – are your best tools for doing this, so don’t be afraid to embrace them.
Do you struggle with spending time alone? What are some of your favourite ways to enjoy spending time alone? Let me know in the comments or contact me via email.